At some point, all teens will engage in behavior that you simply don’t like. This is a normal way that teens establish their independence. This is the stage where you need to reiterate limits and outline the possible consequences that you will dole out. This type of rebellion usually goes away, but not without constant work on your part. Most teens who are simply testing limits will listen to you, even if they are belligerent.

Escalating bad behavior requires punishment. Continual rule breaking, attempting to call your bluff and increasing disrespect can still be controlled, but they require a harder stance. The key is to follow through with punishment. Don’t make threats that you don’t follow through on, as this simply gives them more momentum and a bigger advantage. If it starts to get more difficult, it’s important that both parents are on the same page and work together. Single parents may need to enlist a grandparent or another adult to show the teen that adults have the authority.

Zero tolerance behaviors like crime or drug use are very destructive and may be beyond your ability to handle alone. These may require a professional intervention. Sometimes the intervention happens in ways you don’t want it to, for instance, if the child is arrested. In that case the decision is made for you. Remember that if you stage it, at least you have some control over the situation. As difficult as it can be, you may need to get assistance before the child gets in trouble with the law. Putting it off may mean it is out of your hands, and there can be dire consequences.