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Parents find the difficult behavior of teenagers to be so complicated that they simply ignore the causes and describe it as difficult or obnoxious behavior. Well, each and every individual is permitted to be cranky once in awhile. This rule applies to your teenaged child as well.

However, you should be worried if the child insists on behaving in a rebellious manner at all times. Do you find your child to be a perpetual embarrassment in family gatherings? Does he or she show scant regard for the emotions and sentiments of others? Well, perhaps your child has been insulted or hurt and is simply retaliating.

Of course, the supposed insult or hurt may never have taken place. Or, it may be too smaller thing to worry about. However, the important thing is that your teenager feels that way and is behaving in retaliation.

A supposed insult made by an uncle or aunt maybe the reason behind this behavior. Or, your little big man may be simply feeling neglected because of your focus on your relatives and family members. Whatever the reason, simply ignoring it is not going to work. If you are finding the rebellious behavior to be unnecessarily complicated, simply having a word with your teenager will help.

Of course, don’t expect your teenager to confess everything immediately. You must use a combination of love and firmness to find the truth. Whatever you do, not laugh at the reason. Try to rationalize and reason with the teenager and hope that he or she sees sense after letting it out of the system.

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Understanding what a teenager requires is not an easy task. Sometimes, the teenager wants to be left alone while he or she may need your support at other instances. The worst part is that the teenager is never in a position to explain his or her condition properly.

Would it not be comfortable if you were just told that your help and sympathy is not required? Well, this angst is an integral part of the teenaged years. So, how should you overcome this problem?

Give your teenager the freedom to make mistakes. The teenager will try to behave like an adult and will try to take decisions on his or her own. Some decisions may work out right while others will be spectacularly wrong. It is very easy to lose your temper and criticize the teenager for behaving like a fool. However, this is only going to make him or her defensive.

Do you remember your teenaged years? Do you look back and smile at the ridiculous notions you entertained? Do you realize that your belief that you knew everything about everything was hopelessly flawed? Well, your teenager is probably going through the same phase. However, he or she will need another 10 to 15 years before understanding the mistakes made. Rather than providing a long list of mistakes committed by the teenager, you would do well to simply allow the freedom of committing the errors.

One advantage of such an approach is that conflicts with your teenagers will come down. He or she will be prepared to listen to you because you provide assistance on avoiding the mess ups.

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How to encourage your teenaged child to confide about medical problems that he or she may be facing? Teenage is a time of physical changes in the body. Not all changes are very comfortable and enjoyable. In the beginning, the teenager will feel highly discomforted and this may be seen in their behavior towards others.

You would do well to establish open lines of communication as early as possible. Do you have an extended family? If yes, then you can encourage your child to confess about his or her problems to an uncle or aunt.

It may seem surprising but a child that has depended on you throughout his or her life will prefer talking about uncomfortable topics with a relative who is more like a friend. Needless to say, you can provide assistance to the child of your brother or sister who is facing the same problem. Not only will this help the child manage troubles, it will also help you keep track of any and every bit of information that you need to know. A quick word with your brother or sister will be enough to understand whether you need to intervene with your teenager.

If you do not have the luxury of relying on relatives, then the best option is to encourage the teenager to be open. Try to have a few educational sessions where you explain the various changes that are taking place in the body of the teenager. Make use of internet and info graphics available online. Make it very clear that the internet is not a reliable source of information. This will help you simplify the process of communication.

Naysayers primarily argue that Teen Mom glamorizes teenage pregnancy. The girls portrayed on the show have become famous and are featured on television interviews and magazine covers. The girls also earn thousands of dollars for each episode they star in. Recent MTV casting calls for the show have critics believing that the program is actually encouraging teens to become pregnant.

Still, advocates for the show believe that it is doing some good. A recent public opinion poll by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy found that 82 percent feel the show helps teens understand the hardships that young mothers face. Further, because the teens featured on the show come from all walks of life, it demonstrates to viewers that teenage pregnancy can happen to anyone. And, because many parents and children watch the show together, it helps open lines of communication on a topic that’s often difficult to talk about. The National Campaign’s poll, for instance, found that 40 percent of teens discussed the topic of teen pregnancy with a parent after watching the program.

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For most parts of the world, summer is a perfect opportunity to wear fewer and shorter clothes. Sweaters and woolen coats get a backseat while short tops and skirts are embraced by teen beauties. While your teenage daughter is busy enjoying the summers at beach, you are cautious about the eyes of young men on her exposed body. Parents often find it difficult to know how to approach their daughter about avoiding immodest outfits. There seems to be no perfect answer to the arguments, “This is what all our friends wear,” or “It is the latest fashion that you don’t understand.”

But as a parent, you cannot give up. Try some of the methods given below to guide your teen towards clothing you both can adore:

• Take your daughter out shopping. Spend a fun day trying on different kinds of clothing, from funky Rocawear clothes to even some revealing one. Make her understand that she looks beautiful even while wearing a decent cloth.
• Give her compliments as she tries on more modest clothing. This will increase her self-confidence and help her understand that attitude that matters, not the clothing you wear. She can look extremely beautiful in modest clothes if carried with the right attitude.
• Fathers play an important role in making the teen understand the effect that her dressing can have on others. Modest clothing can protect young women from attracting the wrong kind of attention from young men.

It might look like a lengthy procedure, but being a parent, it is your responsibility to help your teen define her own style statement.

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Parenting a teenager is likely the most challenging part of parenthood. Even with the terrible twos, you can pick up the child and go to his or her bedroom when needed. Ever tried that with a teen? You’ll be dealing with a bad back as well as a teenager.

Roots and Wings

It has been said that what teenagers want is roots and wings. Or in other words, they need to be grounded in their family, knowing who they are, where they come from and what is expected of them. They also need freedom — freedom to make as many of their own choices as possible. They also need to experience the consequences of those choices whether good or bad.

One way to provide some freedom is with a cell phone. The prepaid Blackberry Curve allows your teen to stay in touch with friends and with you. You can also save yourself worry by being able to text or call them if you start feeling worried. A prepaid phone keeps them from running up a huge bill and gives them responsibility for maybe earning their own money to keep their phone going.

Techno Teens

There is no doubt that teens are the ones who know how to work all the new gadgets coming on the market. They text faster, speak the weird “textese” and seem to innately know how to use technology with no learning curve. It takes a willing and savvy parent to keep up with it all. It does give parents a ready topic of conversation in which to engage your teen. One to which they might actually respond!

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For teenagers, texting while driving is becoming an increasingly troubling issue; in fact, research has revealed that texting while driving can be as serious as drunk driving. However, in a recent survey by State Farm, only 36 percent of teens indicated that texting while driving could lead to a fatal accident.

The realities of texting while driving are much more dire than those survey results indicate. While driving at 55 miles per hour, texters can drive the length of the football field without looking at the road. The National Safety Council has estimated that at least 1.6 million crashes—or 28 percent of crashes—involve distracted drivers who are using their cell phones. Texting significantly reduces the driver’s reaction time, leaving him all the more likely to run a red light. In post-crash interviews, many drivers don’t even recall making a hazardous mistake like breezing through a stop sign because they were so involved with typing a message at the time of the accident.

Teens are becoming more and more dependent on cell phones, so it’s no wonder that they’ve taken to texting while driving. According to the Pew Research Center, 75 percent of teens own cell phones. More than half of teens text on a daily basis.

Because of these troubling statistics, many states have taken strides to ban texting while driving. As of May 2011, 32 states, the District of Columbia and Guam have banned texting while driving. Further, eight states, the District of Columbia and the Virgin Islands prevent drivers from using handheld cell phones altogether.

If your child does get into a vehicular accident, they will probably call you first. Make sure that they know what to do if they are in an accident. Here is a list to help.

• Make sure everyone is OK.
• Call 911 or the police depending on the situation.
• Exchange insurance information with the other party.
• Make an insurance claim.

If someone was injured because of the accident, you may be required to go to court. If you are in the L.A. area, you are going to need the help of a Los Angeles California personal injury lawyer to help you through the process. Hopefully you have enough insurance coverage to cover the costs, but if not, a lawyer can help you make decisions and know your options.

Vehicular accidents are never a happy event, and someone getting injured only makes the situation worse. Teenagers need to be aware that the actions they take behind the wheel can affect them for the rest of their lives, so they should always be alert and do their best to avoid an incident. Help your teen understand the consequences before they even begin driving.

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Teens can learn about homosexuality earlier than ever, and, as a result, gay teens have a language to describe their feelings. Consequently, more teens are coming out to their family members, so parents today must learn about raising homosexual children more than ever before. Parents of gay teens who are educated on the issues of homosexuality can raise happy, well-adjusted children.

First, parents should realize that the situation is about the child, not them. The child’s sexual orientation is not a result of how the parents raised him or her. Parents may also worry that their child will be bullied, lonely or unpopular. They may even worry that they’ll never have grandchildren. Parents should deal with these worries on their own, or through the help of a psychiatrist. They should not communicate them to the child; children flourish when they feel support from their parents, rather than apprehension.

Further, parents should be their child’s biggest advocate. They shouldn’t be ashamed of his or her sexual orientation; they should be comfortable sharing or talking about it with others. Parents should communicate their acceptance of homosexuality to help their children feel comfortable with themselves and more confident. For parents who have difficulty with accepting homosexuality, they can seek help through a counselor, or search for a local PFLAG chapter. Coming out is an extremely difficult experience for a teen to go through. Parents should acknowledge this, and should know that through coming out to them, their child wants them to be apart of his or her future.

For parents who have difficulty accepting their child’s sexual orientation, they should find help before their relationship with their child becomes damaged.

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Teens can be complicated to understand sometimes. Your nice, sweet child’s personality suddenly changes when raging hormones hit at the onset of puberty.

You may be wondering how to reach your young person and let him or her know you still love and care. Many parents question what their teens are looking for and needing at this stage in their lives. There are 4 basic rewards or needs that teens seek.

1. Encouragement: A kind word goes a long way. These are words teens need and appreciate, even if they don’t always acknowledge them with a word of acceptance.
2. Hugs: Personal touch is something many teens won’t admit they want or need, but it’s something all humans crave. Be free with handing out hugs. If you have an extremely tough teen who shuns physical touch, consider putting him or her in charge of the family dog.
3. Time: Sharing your time is of utmost importance. It has been noted that most fathers spend less than 3 minutes a day with their children. Show you care by giving of your time. Do something enjoyable together and build some strong bonds.
4. Trust: Sooner or later you have to allow teens to grow up and make their own decisions. Like if they should wear conservative or sexy costumes for Halloween.  This can be hard for a parent to do, but in order for teens to learn some of life’s lessons, you have to trust their decisions.

There will be moments when your children will try your patience and you’ll be frustrated. At such times, just remember that their teenage years won’t last forever.

When a camera is on an individual or their family, what do we really get?

In private the camera is in the off position and we are left to deal with our choice with only our closest loved ones, if we even have that. What we get is real, honest truth about our week by week pregnancy as a teenager. We see the responsibility, the heart-ache of losing our previous life; we get the real grit on working and sudden adult-hood. Our boyfriend may leave us, we may choose adoption, or we may keep the baby with the help of our family. But, in the end, it’s all about the truth of who we are un-backed by how we might appear to a television audience.

We are not glorified. We are not put in the spotlight.

Sure, teens see what other teens are going through on teen pregnancy TV shows, but what choices are being made based on the lights of the all-consuming camera? Is it the “real” choice or some fabrication based on what “appears” to be the real choice?

It may be that we learn something, we may make a different choice, a better choice because of what we have seen (and so might the teen because she is being viewed), but what of the truth?

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Raising kids can be tricky.  Raising teenagers can be even trickier.  Once the child reaches the treacherous teenager years, a parent will at some stage need to discuss drugs and alcohol with him or her.  it may not be a subject that the teenager wants to talk about, but it needs to be done.  No doubt the subject will be touched upon at school, but showing your teenager you are open to talk about such issues will let them know they can come to you if need be.

A good place to start is to remain open on talking about the subject.  If you close up when your teenage starts to talk about such issues, they will not feel comfortable approaching you if they have a genuine problem.  Being warm and open on any sort of topic your teen wishes to talk about will encourage further openness in the future.

Knowledge is power.  The more knowledge your teen has on the effects that drugs and alcohol have on the body, the more of an informed decision your teen can make about the disadvantages of using substances.  There are many websites available that give advice on how to talk to your teen about drugs and alcohol.  Some of them even have help packs you can download or that can be mailed out to you.

Talking to your teenagers about drugs and alcohol is an important part of growing up.  Showing your teenager you are open to discussing the topic of drugs and alcohol will show them they are able to come to you to talk if they are ever is trouble.

The trick to teaching teens about money is to keep them happy as they are learning. Show them that managing money is in their best interest and will allow them to save up for things they really want. For example, set up a prom dress savings account. Instruct you’re teen to contribute to the account on a regular basis. When it’s time to purchase the dress, only spend as much money as what is in the account. The same tactics can be done for a new car fund.

If your child is saving for a new car, it’s a great time to introduce donating items to charity. An old car can be donated to Kars 4 Kids to help fund children’s programs. This will also teach your teen the importance of helping others. It will remind your teens to be grateful for what they do have while helping others that are not as lucky as they are.

Of course there are a lot of charities that can help your teen give back to the community. The main thing to teach your teen is that giving back is part of being a member of a community. There are many other children’s charities that need help.

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Teenage is that time of life when bravery is at the highest. Even on the road. Teenagers often do not know the value of their own lives, leave alone others’. Teenagers tend to become very rash drivers after consuming alcohol. They meet accidents due to rash driving influenced by alcohol. Some of them drive fast because of the pleasure it gives them. Inexperience causes them to crash. Not onto a tree, or building, but onto anything. Which may be you or me. This makes them potentially dangerous drivers on the road.

To teach your teenage child safe driving tips, here’s what you must do…

Be a safe driver yourself

Teenagers need not, but surely tend to look up to how their elders drive. Although a rash teenager driver’s driving skills cannot be blamed upon his parent, teenagers do see how others drive. By becoming your teenage child’s guru, you will imbibe at an early age the art of safe driving.

Walk them on the roads

Try to take a walk with them on the road. Make it clear to them how it feels when a pedestrian comes in the way of a speeding car. By being a pedestrian they will understand how much important it is for the drivers to drive safely.

Get them enrolled with a good driving school

Driving schools play an important role in teaching the basics well. Your teenage child should learn driving from the best driving school and from the best driving instructors. Even if you have to shell out some additional money, don’t compromise on a good driving school.

Most teens drink alcohol out of curiousity; they want to know what it tastes like.  They have the wrong inpression alcohol will make them feel good, not realizing after those few feel good moments they can easily become sick or hung-over.  Some teens drink for the appearance of being older. While sadly a great many drink to reduce stress and forget their troubles.

Besides being hung-over or throwing up, teens don’t realize there are servere risks to binge drinking.

• Binge drinking can lead to alcohol poisoning which has life-threatening counsequences. Excess alcohol causes the body to involuntarily reflex. A person can experience seizures and convulsions, not be able to awaken once passed out, or experience slow and irregular breathing.
• Binge drinking also impairs judgement. An intoxicated person is more likely to drive while under the influence, have unprotected sex, and put themselves into higher risk situations.
• A teen’s physical health takes a major toll from excessive drinking. A binge drinker has a tendancy to gain weight, develop high blood pressure, damage their liver, and have poor sleeping patterns.
• Binge drinkers have a high risk of mental health issues. They lose the ability to concentrate, develop poor sleep patterns, and have significant changes in their personalities. This leads to poor academic or job performance, feelings of intense anger or moodiness, and severe depression with suicidal tendancies.
• The ultimate risk of binge drinking is that it will turn into alcoholism. The person will no longer be able to go through a day without the need to consume one or more alcoholic beverages.

Unfortunately, for some people the rose-colored glasses turn into blinders. These blinders hinder them from seeing the relationship for what it really is and recognizing if it is unhealthy.

A healthy relationship should consist of the following:

• Respect

Your partner likes you for who you are, respects your boundaries, doesn’t want to change you, and doesn’t force you to do things you don’t want.

• Trust

Your partner trusts you and does not display jealousy or rage when you talk to others from the opposite sex.

• Honesty

The foundation of a good relationship consists of honesty. A relationship should not be built on lies and trickery.

• Support

Your partner should be there for you when you need a shoulder to cry on and when you want to celebrate good fortunes and you should do the same.

• Compromise

A healthy relationship should have equal amounts of give and take by both partners. Relationship decisions should not be always made by one person.

• Self Identity

Just because you are a couple, you shouldn’t lose your individuality or be forced to change your opinions. You should both continue to have your own lives including friends and outside interests and feel free to develop new friends and interests moving forward.

• Communication

You should never be afraid to speak up and share your feelings or ideas. You also need to make sure that you keep an open line of communication and never keep feelings bottled up because you are afraid of a reaction or sounding silly.

Bullying occurs when a person is picked on constantly by an individual or group that is perceived to have more power in terms of social standing or physical strength.  Bullies like to pick on people that they perceive to be different due to looks, actions, race, religion, or lifestyle.

Attacks by bullies can be physical such as shoving, hitting, and tripping or psychological such as taunting, teasing, gossiping, verbal insulting, and cyberbullying. The person being bullied experiences a form of peer abuse and run the risk for mental health problems including stress, depression, low self-esteem, anxiety, and think about suicide.

Bullies thrive on reactions and the more you reaction, the more they will continue to harass. There are a few survival tips that can help combat verbal and psychological bullying. By doing the following, the bullies lose the reactions they crave and the problem will cease to exist:

• Ignore and walk away from anyone bullying you. The bully does not get the reaction they crave and moves on.
• Do not respond to harassing emails, texts, or notes
• Keep your anger in check, control your emotions, and do not react.
• Do not get physical or become aggessive towards a bully. This is the reaction they want and can physically hurt you back.
• Practice being confident by walking tall, smiling, and not being afraid to hold you head up
• Find support from a friend and confide your feelings. Let them assure you of your value and talents.
• Let someone know when you are being bullied and talk about the situation without embarrasment

People with healthy self-esteem often feel good about themselves, have self-worth, and take pride in their accomplishments, skills, and abilities. People with low self-esteem often feel unworthy, unloved, unaccepted, and unable to do things right.

There are ways to improve and develop healthy self-esteem:

• Focus on the positive and stop thinking negatively about yourself. Instead of being critical of short comings, counter it by saying something positive or doing something positive such as writing down 3 things you excel at.
• Stop focusing on perfection and aim for accomplishments. If you enjoy swimming and want to try out for the swim team, don’t hold yourself back because you don’t have proper form.
• Don’t put yourself down because you missed a step during a recital or missed the basket during a game. Mistakes are learning opportunities which help us to develop our talents and interests.
• Not everyone can be good at everything. Don’t be afraid to try new things and develop new talents.
• Recognize the things that you are able to change about yourself and not what you can’t change. Your genes made you short, but that doesn’t mean you can’t stand tall and love the skin your in.
• Create a list of goals, plan how to accomplish them, track your progress, reward yourself along the way, and find support from others when you struggle.
• Make a difference in someone else’s life by volunteering to tutor a classmate, helping an elderly neighbor, participating in a charity walk, or volunteer your time at a pet shelter. When you feel like you are valued or making a difference in the world, you improve your personal esteem levels.

First off, you can always forbid marriage before they are 18. This is a dictatorial approach to things, and it is inevitably going to result in all kinds of backlash. This is a knee jerk, emotional response to a person who feels grown being treated like a child. A better response is to counsel your teen, and help them to understand some of the underlying problems with getting married at such a young age, and let them get engagement rings. This will take finesse to do properly.

First off, never tell your teen they’re not emotionally ready. This will explode in your face every time. Instead, take the tack that since your teen is probably not financially independent (and likely neither is their significant other), life will be extremely hard in the early years. While getting engaged is a great idea, getting married too young can spell all kinds of hardships later.

Some people drive fast and aggressively, while other wander between lanes while texting, eating, changing radio stations, or talking on the phone. With all that you also have to keep an eye on drivers following to close behind, making turns without using a signal, or a driver that continues to change lanes.

Aggressive drivers cause one third of every traffic incident, followed closely behind by inattentive multitasking drivers. You can’t control the actions of other drivers on the road, but you can learn defensive driving skills to help avoid the dangers caused by bad drivers.

Here are a few tips to follow when behind the wheel:

• Stay focused on driving by making it the key thing you do. It is hard enough driving under certain road conditions, observing traffic laws, signals, and signs, and remaining within the speed limit. Keep a strict distraction free activity rule for your car. Make sure that neither you nor your passengers are texting, eating, or doing other distracting activiites.
• Stay alert so that you can quickly react to potential problems. You should never drive while drowsy or under the influence of alcohol or drugs.
• Be aware of other drivers by anticipating what the other driver might do and prepare yourself to react. Don’t assume a driver is courteous and will heed to the rules of the road, that the other driver will move out of the way to allow you to merge, will slow at a yellow light, or come to a complete stop at a stop sign.
• Drive offensively instead of defensively. This means keeping plenty of space between you and the car in front of you, using your turning signals, and being aware of your surroundings.
• Watch you speed as posted speed limit signs apply towards ideal conditions. If the conditions are not ideal, keep your speed in check and know it is okay to go a bit below the posted limit.

The art of studying actually starts way before the actual scheduled test date. The best study technique happens in the classroom when you are actually learning the materials. Creating a better way at note-taking will help you more easily remember what was taught in class and the materials that you have read.

The key to good note-taking is to write down the facts that a teacher mentions or has written on the board. Don’t be afraid to ask the teacher to repeat something you miss or go over the facts again that hard to comprehend.

Studying also involves good time management skills. When it comes time to study for a test, determine how much time you need to devote to each topic. If you have a math and history test, but are better in math, you might want to devote more time studying each night for history.

Consider breaking topics into blocks or chunks. If your history test is over World War I, break it up by battles or periods of time.  Use an egg timer to schedule 45 minute blocks of time for study followed by 15 minutes for a break to reduce fatigue and help with concentration.

While studying for multiple choice exams, focus on studying the facts and details such as dates. For essay questions, consider what topics are more likely to be covered. Create practice essay topics and using the book, notes, or other references try to formulate and answer.

Make the extra effort to complete practice problems or practice questions at the end of each chapter. These practice materials are a summarization of what you should have learned from your reading and helps you to determine if you have retained the information.

Consider forming a study group with other students. Study groups are great for bouncing off ideas, understanding concepts, quizing one another, and finding new ways to study more proficiently.

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Teenagers are not adults, in spite of what their bodies (and their words) might try to tell you.  Just because your teen can outdo you in athletic contests, and even if they are better than you are at academic pursuits, they still lack a lot of the necessary experience that it takes to do well on their own.  Unfortunately, they are also at a point in their lives in which they see themselves as either your equals or your superiors, whether they actually are or not.  But you have got to do all you can, both to show them a good example of a calm person who stays in control of the situation, and to show them that their opinions matter.  Why the dichotomy?  Unfortunately, this is just how you have to play it, with people who are stuck between being adults and being children.

The process of growing up is a struggle for just about everyone.  With each age a person passes, there are more chances for them to become disillusioned with the way that life actually works.  While a baby can simply cry, and let a magical hand come around and fix every problem that they could possibly have, a child generally learns that problems can not always be taken care of that easily.  A teen then learns an extension to this fact- their parents may be able to fix most of their problems, but they are ultimately going to have to handle a lot of stuff by themselves.

It is for this reason that you have got to slowly allow your teen to take over their own lives.  It is not a sudden process, and if you do it properly they will barely notice that their responsibility level is slowly creeping upward.  And needless to say, as they gain the burden of more responsibilities, they should also gain a new and steadily growing set of additional privileges to sweeten the pot.  After all, your teen should be earning the right to be able to do more things as they get older.  In time, they’ll do it all.

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As your child gets into their teen years, you might be tempted to just put yourself out of the house, and allow them to run the entirety of your household, since they seem to suddenly know everything.  And while you know that while doing something of that nature would feel good for a moment (finally being free of the constant picking, when they may or may not even know what they are talking about), it would ultimately result in a very large series of disasters for both you and them.  Whether or not your teens want to admit to it, they do still need you to some extent.  Unfortunately, a lot of them might even need you to a point after college in their twenties.  But if you stagger their levels of responsibility, they will have the skills and mental tools that they will need to last on their own.

You might wonder what staggering their responsibilities means.  Simply put, it means that you have got to slowly add in responsibilities to the mix, from the very beginning (things like being able to walk around the house by themselves when they are 2 or 3) all the way up to when you send them off to college to live their own lives without any daily intervention from you.  Could you imagine if you tried to leap straight between those two extremes?  The results would be catastrophic for your poor kids.  Not to mention the fact that until they left, they would feel downright smothered, as you insisted on helping them to use the bathroom and brush their teeth, and other ridiculous things for someone in their teens.

So you have to make sure you add responsibilities slowly to the mix.  A decent rule of thumb would be one chore per year, until they know how to do everything necessary to run a household by about 18 years old.  At that point, other than financial things (which they will be able to manage, but not necessarily to earn enough for), they are going to be fully capable adults with solid skills.

Identification and Contact information

No matter how old your teenager may be, it doesn’t hurt to include a slip of paper in his wallet that includes contact information. Although he knows his phone number and address, an accident could render him incapable of communicating. If he has a driver’s license, make sure he carries it. For younger teens, most state DMVs can provide ID cards. It might also be a good idea to include a copy of your insurance card, as well.

Secure Payment Methods

Although it’s good for your teen to have a little bit of cash on him, this is easy to lose. On the other hand, you wouldn’t want to turn him loose with a credit card. However, prepaid credit cards are a great option. If he does lose the card, you can easily cancel it and recover the money.

Medical Information

Most school permission slips will include a place to give your approval for medical treatment in the case of emergency, but a friend’s parents may not think of this critical item. Provide a note authorizing them to seek treatment in the case of emergency along with a list of any medications that your teen takes.

Although this list is far from complete, it provides an idea of what should be included in your teenager’s backpack for their next trip.

To start off, by the time they are teens, your kids should be able to take care of their basic personal grooming and locomotion.  You should also be requiring them to do physical work around the house (such as mowing the lawn, dusting, vacuuming, etc.).  Break down all of the different chores in the house into levels of intellectual difficulty, and these are at the low end.  You should be giving them an allowance for what they do, and compensating them according to the complexity of the job.  Properly cleaning the outside and inside of your car is more complex than sweeping the kitchen floor, after all.  But this is just the beginning.

When your kid starts thinking about getting a job, the real fun begins.  At this stage of the game, introduce them to taxes, and their rights as a worker.  The more they know, and the more they can do about such things, the better prepared they are going to be to demand what they are worth in the workplace.  By 16, they should be capable of handling grocery shopping, staying within budget, and supplying your household with its dietary and sundry needs.

Many alternative schools try to provide things that may be lacking in a traditional school. These things usually include personalized attention and may have roots in philosophical, religious or scholarly backgrounds. You should do research to find what may be the best alternative educational opportunity for your child.

First you should ascertain what issue your child is facing. Is it disciplinary? Is it behavioral or something else? There are schools that can concentrate on behavioral issues such as boot camps or other discipline-based schools. Students are often required to attend such schools after they have been expelled.

Perhaps you understand that your child does not do well in a larger classroom situation. You may want to look at charter schools that are required to maintain the same standards as the public schools, because in fact they are part of the public school system.

You may also want to consider home schooling or online schools. You will be much more involved with your child’s education on a day-to-day basis. These options will let your student study at his or her individual pace or repeat an online module for great understanding.

You may need to visit several of these options to find the one that will best suit the needs of your child, but in the end it will be worth it when you have an academically successful child.

Responsibility is a strange thing, because it opens up a lot of differnt avenues for both success and failure.  On the one hand, keeping your lawn well maintained means that your teen is going to have something nice that they can point to and say, “that’s my responsibility.”  But on the other hand, you can do better than that.  Say you want to reward good things and punish bad ones.  Have your teen participate in taxes, all the way from thinking through what might be deductible, to scanning your receipts, all the way to going with you to your accountant’s office and and sitting in on the process.

You might be wondering how in the world you could ever motivate your teen to do any of this.  You could allow them to keep a portion of what you get back from the IRS, for one thing.  This is a skillset that everybody is going to need to have at some point.  So you might as well get them into the habit at a young age, and teach them that intellectual responsibilities are just as important (if not moreso) than physical ones are.  Most 13 year olds can probably handle responsibilities like that.

There are a couple of types of rebellion.  The first is overt rebellion, which means that your kid is facing you straight on and telling you what they want to do, even though they are pretty sure that you are against their plans.  In some cases, it is best to flat out override them.  If they press you and you have a logical explanation for your executive decision, feel free to explain it.  They most likely won’t listen, but at least it is better than the old standby of “because I said so.”  If they can explain why their idea is okay, and it really works, allow it.

The other type of rebellion is the secret kind.  Now, since you were once a teen (and you undoubtedly had plenty of teenage friends), you know that this is no secret.  Lots of teens sneak out at night to go do things that may or may not be as much fun as they initially perceive them to be.  And a lot of teens do things that they naively assume you are never going to find out about.

For one thing, you could leave the seat belt in an unusual position every time you get out of the car, and then check it after they have been driving.  If they have not used their seat belt, the punishment should be pretty severe.  If they do not do their chores around the house, the car becomes off limits until they go two weeks of perfect chore completion.  If they get drunk and drive, they do not drive again until they are 18- unless you want to take a hard line on it.  Your own stance is going to be individual, but the punishment should always fit the crime.

Driving is a very big responsibility that is completely wasted on most teenagers.  They see cars as fun toys (which they often are), when in reality driving is about work.  When your teens see driving as a serious responsibility that they are not entitled to being allowed to do, it should temper a lot of their less reasonable impulses.  Once they are responsible drivers, you can allow them to drive all of the time.  Unfortunately, by this point they are usually old enough to leave your home on their own, anyway.

Getting a degree can do many great things for you personally as well. It can give you a great sense of accomplishment and pride, knowing that you have applied yourself, worked hard and succeeded at a worthwhile cause. As you go along the path of obtaining a college degree, you will be introduced to a variety of interesting subjects and ideas that you may not have ever encountered before, broadening your mind and thought process. Additionally, a degree can be a stepping stone later in obtaining even higher education for becoming a doctor, lawyer or educator. Having the undergraduate degree already done will put you on that path a lot sooner than if you didn’t have it.

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Teenagers are beautiful people.  Generally they are lean, strong, energetic and full of great passion.  While these things could be applied to incredible endeavors, teens usually just whiz them away in the misguided effort of reproduction and spend much of their later lives wondering why they did not apply their youthful power to something a bit more worthy.  Sadly, there are just no answers to questions like that.  Another annoying tendency of teenagers is that, by the time they are not a terrible annoyance to deal with, they are out of your hair and out living on their own.  Call it an irony if you want to, but it would be wonderful if they could be more responsible earlier in life.

After all, a lot of teens are pretty irresponsible even after they turn 18 years old.  They may whine, throw temper tantrums, and even cuss out police officers when they get high.  Sadly, there is not much that you can do about this.  Physical violence does not help, and reprimands only encourage more rebellious tendencies.  Half the time, you would like to just let your teens do everything for themselves, make terrible mistakes that could take years to fix, and then let them learn lessons the hard way.  But as a parent, you are a natural born sucker for their sympathy plays.

The good news is, if you give your teens responsibilities and interfere only in cases where a dire problem could exist (such as if your teen thinks the lawn could be more easily controlled if it were coated in gasoline and set ablaze), they will tend to learn responsibility more quickly than if you simply do most things for them.  After all, people who know only leisure generally find actual work all but impossible.  And as talented and bright as your teen may be, they are still going to suffer from inexperience.

Name one person who loves to downsize a home, and you might win a million dollars; because the chances of that are virtually nil. Unfortunately with the way the world works, financial downfall, disability, illness, even deaths in the family or among friends, can force a family to cut down on some of the possessions to help make room for a smaller dwelling.

Take typical Virginia Beach apartments, for instance: they’re appealing because of the lack of maintenance and tighter space, making way for easier cleaning. The difficulty in downsizing is doing it. That’s why you have some tips here to help you cope with the stress and obstacle of dealing with downsizing. The emotional turmoil can get heavy, but rest assured: this might help you deal with it.

Step One:

Start on the rooms you use the least.

The reason for that is simple; it’s in your favor that you might find just about everything in a guest room that you don’t necessarily need, making it easier to let it go.

Step Two:

Start with the larger items.

Knowing you’re making progress is important, and if work on things like furniture and bedding and other large pieces, you’ll be surprised with how much space you’ve released in your home.

Step Three:

Have a sorting system.

Again with minimizing the stress and headaches, be realistic in that downsizing a house is quite the undertaking. Make sure you’re prepared by keeping your endeavor organized.

And Step Four:

Take care of yourself!

You’re not in any rush. Trust in that. While you work on the sorting, be sure to take plenty of breaks and start early every day.

Keep these tips in mind, and downsizing the home won’t be such a chore. In a way, you might find something surprising about the process: it might actually bring you closer to your family history. So cherish that. Enjoy your new home, because sometimes that’s where life takes you.

Escalating bad behavior requires punishment. Continual rule breaking, attempting to call your bluff and increasing disrespect can still be controlled, but they require a harder stance. The key is to follow through with punishment. Don’t make threats that you don’t follow through on, as this simply gives them more momentum and a bigger advantage. If it starts to get more difficult, it’s important that both parents are on the same page and work together. Single parents may need to enlist a grandparent or another adult to show the teen that adults have the authority.

Zero tolerance behaviors like crime or drug use are very destructive and may be beyond your ability to handle alone. These may require a professional intervention. Sometimes the intervention happens in ways you don’t want it to, for instance, if the child is arrested. In that case the decision is made for you. Remember that if you stage it, at least you have some control over the situation. As difficult as it can be, you may need to get assistance before the child gets in trouble with the law. Putting it off may mean it is out of your hands, and there can be dire consequences.

There are so many dangers lurking at every turn. It makes perfect sense to many parents to monitor what their children are doing online at all times. On the other side of the coin, there are those who believe that trusting their children will prepare them better for life after high school. There are compelling arguments on both sides.

Here are a few things you might want to consider to help you decide what the best choice for your family may be.

1) Even good kids make bad decisions sometimes.

2) You can’t always be looking over their shoulders no matter how careful you are.

3) Monitoring software protects them from others as well as from themselves.

4) There are some things your kids just aren’t ready to accidentally stumble across.

Monitoring software and similar PC Tools can protect your kids from all those things and more. As difficult as the decision can be, it’s better than facing the alternative for many parents.

The arguments in favor of trusting your children are true and quite compelling. But the fact remains that there are bad things that happen to good kids every day because of innocent interactions online. Your first priority is to protect your children no matter how much you do or do not trust them.

Is it a good idea to spy on your children? I can’t speak for everyone. I can only speak for myself. I’d rather have my children safe at home and mad at me for spying on them than facing the unthinkable alone because I didn’t want them to hate me for prying.

Trying to solve all their problems and make everything turn out alright can actually be damaging. People who are never disappointed, embarrassed or heartbroken turn out to be shallow and insensitive. No one wants to see their child unhappy, but creating a false reality stunts their emotional development. Allow things to take their course, offer support when asked, but don’t try to manage every single situation.

Unless they are about to participate in something that is physically harmful or that has irreversible consequences, let them evaluate the risks and determine their own course of action. Buying impractical items, staying up too late or missing band practice all have consequences. By the time they are teenagers they should understand what will happen when they do these things. If not, its time for them to learn, No lecture can teach them what suffering the consequences can. Don’t go to bat for them when they have chosen to break the rules.

Remember that teens can’t learn to be responsible if they never see anyone else doing it. Practice what you preach as much as possible. If you make excuses for everything, you will soon find that your teens will start doing the same thing. Likewise, if they see you taking steps to improve, they will have an appreciation for responsible behavior and the rewards it can bring.

When you own the car, it should be pretty clear to your teen that everything you say goes. Strict curfews need to be followed or they lose driving privileges. The same goes for reckless driving, or breaking any of your other rules like no loud music or texting behind the wheel.

When you have purchased them a car, remember that you still have the authority. As long as they are under age, you can still take away the keys. Have them sign a contract before you buy the car. When things are in writing, people tend to take them more seriously. This way, you can always remind them of what they agreed to.

If they buy a car themselves, don’t be manipulated into fixing their mistakes. Depending on your state, you may be legally responsible for any damage they cause. However, you don’t have to pay to fix their own car when they brought the damage upon themselves.

It’s always best to discuss rules, limits and responsibilities before they start driving. When they see that there are costs and consequences to breaking the rules, they might understand how much of a responsibility it really is.

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College is the time when most teens transition to adulthood. It’s a wonderful time of growth, learning and new experiences. It can also be a time of temptations. For students with a deep tradition in Christian faith and education, the college experience can be a time of tumult. This doesn’t mean it should be shunned. Instead, the campus experience can be embraced as a perfect test and testament to how strong a Christian student’s faith can truly be.

Just because a student is heading off to college doesn’t mean the parent’s role in their upbringing ends. In fact, this is when that kicks into high gear. Even if your child is headed off to a Christian-based college, that doesn’t mean they won’t be confronted with many issues you’ve kept them safe from. The goal should be what it has always been: stick to your faith. No matter what kind of campus they move to, Christian students will always find like-minded classmates. There are many fellowship clubs they can join. In the absence of them, perhaps you could encourage your kid to start their own Christian organization. We all know it just takes a strong Christian leader to show the way. Perhaps that’s your child!

It’s also vital that parents keep the lines of communication open to their college-bound students. Perhaps the addition of a webcam hook-up could be a way to have your presence felt. Temptation is going to be lurking around every corner. However, when you can provide the same level of wisdom and encouragement as you have, then you can keep your child on the straight and narrow. If that means learning how to work a webcam then so be it! The popular college site earnmydegree.com has plenty more helpful tips to make this transition as seamless as possible. And if it’s not a good fit, they can always earn their degree from the comfort of their own home with online classes.