Understanding what a teenager requires is not an easy task. Sometimes, the teenager wants to be left alone while he or she may need your support at other instances. The worst part is that the teenager is never in a position to explain his or her condition properly.
Would it not be comfortable if you were just told that your help and sympathy is not required? Well, this angst is an integral part of the teenaged years. So, how should you overcome this problem?
Give your teenager the freedom to make mistakes. The teenager will try to behave like an adult and will try to take decisions on his or her own. Some decisions may work out right while others will be spectacularly wrong. It is very easy to lose your temper and criticize the teenager for behaving like a fool. However, this is only going to make him or her defensive.
Do you remember your teenaged years? Do you look back and smile at the ridiculous notions you entertained? Do you realize that your belief that you knew everything about everything was hopelessly flawed? Well, your teenager is probably going through the same phase. However, he or she will need another 10 to 15 years before understanding the mistakes made. Rather than providing a long list of mistakes committed by the teenager, you would do well to simply allow the freedom of committing the errors.
One advantage of such an approach is that conflicts with your teenagers will come down. He or she will be prepared to listen to you because you provide assistance on avoiding the mess ups.